Do you ever have those weeks when Friday can’t get here fast enough? Me too, and when I do I often look back and think… what was the rush? These past months I have found myself reflecting all too often on times that went by WAY to fast. That is one of the hard things about aging I think. It just all went by soooo fast! I know you’re probably thinking… hello, you’re still young… and that’ true, but having had my children at such a young age pretty close together makes for an interesting experience in motherhood. Not only do you have 4 under the age of 6 with 2 in diapers the whole time (well except for the first 17 1/2 months, lol), but you also end up with 4 teenagers at the same time. And when adulthood hits, it hits all at once… and before you know it, you’re an “empty nester”! I find myself asking questions such as: Was I a good enough mother? Did I take enough time with my children to teach them all the things that they will need to know as they venture out into the world? Well, one thing is for sure… it comes whether or not they/we are ready for it! Anyway… all this reflection has caused me to think of a few things that I might have done differently as a teenager and young adult (this is for my kids) if I had to do it all over again…. I also read from the Mother Huddle again which helped prompt this post… So here are a few of the things that I wish I could have told my teenage self.
♦ What’s with the big hair…. really???
♦ don’t be in such a hurry all the time (I know that one’s a big surprise, lol). You have your whole life to make important decisions… slow down and enjoy being young….
♦ You don’t have to have a boyfriend to be happy….just date a lot and have fun.
♦ Stay in college and get your education..if you don’t do it now, you probably never will.
♦ Don’t be afraid to be yourself (and if you don’t know what it means to be yourself then take the time to figure out who you are) … even if that means you might not be the most popular.
♦ In fifteen years “haha” will be a very popular phrase :)
♦ If you get too busy and you have to give up something, make sure you’re giving up the right thing.
♦ Don’t ever think you can’t say “no”
♦ Hang in there… you’re gonna have a great life!
So now it’s your turn… if you could tell your teenage self something what would it be? (and remember if you comment you get entered in the contest… click on the contest tab to the left to find out what the prize is).
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You know it was so funny, when Rachel sent me her list I realized this would be the perfect way to teach my kids. Tell them what I wished I had done different. Not what I did right, but what I did wrong.
As a mom that is the type of advice I learn best from. An older mother telling me the things she wished she would have done differently. It works so much better than just telling someone all the things they were fantastic with, don’t you think?
Anyhoo I decided I would give my daughter a letter at 13 to tell her what I would tell myself then if I had the chance, and maybe just a few of the things I think I did right.
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Things I would tell my teenage self:
-Shirts that show your belly are not cute
-If a boy 4 years older than you tells you he loves you, RUN AWAY!!
-Read more
-You have the rest of your life to be a grown up
-Some people may dissapoint you, but there still good people, nobody is perfect. Not even your mother.
-Spend more time with friends, they will be your crutch one day
-Call your grandmother
ps, I totally had one of those weeks too
I would tell my teenage self that when your Dad asks if you want to go into town with him, just the 2 of you, I should have said yes. Instead of deciding to sleep in longer. I should have had more one on one time with him before he was gone.
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